Noticing signs of Domestic Violence?

There are many signs that can tell you if domestic abuse is taking place. Below is a list that may help you to recognise whether someone you know is being abused.

Domestic violence is an abuse of power, and often the abusers aim, whether they knows it or not, is to take control of another's life. Therefore, any signs that a persons decisions are being controlled or manipulated by their partner can mean that abuse is present in the relationship. 

Here are some examples of abusive behaviour:


  • They acts jealous and possessive.
  • They cut you off from family and friends.


  • Sudden, extreme mood changes.
  • Using anger and intimidation to frighten you into doing what they want.
  • They threatens to hurt you, or people you cares about if you leave.

(Some specific examples of intimidation may include):

  • Damaging their possessions.
  • Deliberately breaking the furniture.
  • Threatening to kill the pets.
  • Threatening to kidnap or get custody of the children if you leave.
  • Locking out of the house during an argument.
  • Terrorising by driving fast or through red lights at high speed because they know it frightens you.


  • Controls money, who you see, and/or what to wear.
  • They keep track of where you are and what you are doing.


  • They blame you for the abuse.
  • They humiliates or insults you in front of others.
  • They verbally abuses you or criticises you e.g. ‘You’re useless and couldn’t cope without me’.

 If you are being abused, remember this:

  • You're not alone. One woman in four is abused during her lifetime.
  • You don't have to deal with this on your own.
  • The abuse is not your fault.
  • You cannot change your partner.
  • Domestic violence is against the law.
  • There is help available for you.


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